look for where the Light pours in

As I type this, Dermot Kennedy’s lyrics pour out of my laptop. The kitchen lights stream into the living room. I’m in yesterday’s t-shirt, sitting on the floor. But maybe I should be on my knees.

I’ve lost count of the times I’ve written this post in my head but never wanted to put pen to paper or finger to key. Because maybe then it’d feel all too real. Maybe then I’d have to face all the emotions I’ve stuffed deep down for months.

I’m a pretty emotional person, but I doubt you’d even know it. I hate the thought of burdening others with my feelings so instead of letting it out, I keep it hidden. As a chronic people-pleaser, I avoid confrontation at all costs. The idea of sharing how I feel with others for fear of what they’d think or feeling like I’m a bother — (gasp!) the horror! You know when you go to the grocery store and the cashier asks you how you’re doing or how your day is going? We so often reply with “great, good, fine, I’m doing ok,” without really thinking about it and no matter how our day really went. Half the time (ok, all the time), I just keep it all in so I can hold it together. But every now and then when I find myself alone, all the emotions bubble up to the surface like a dam ready to break. I guess this is one of those moments. (And to be honest, this feels more like a diary entry than a blog post so fair warning that this post is about to be loooooooong. Ya girl can talk).

If I told you all that my family has been through the past few months, I don’t think you’d believe it. Because I still can’t.

My mom has been in and out of the hospital since May. (I got her permission to publish this, fyi). For nearly a week, those cold four walls were our home. I was there every waking hour, sleeping in a rigid chair at her bedside, watching her breathe. I’ve never felt so hopeless in my entire life. All I could do was sit, pray, wait, sit, pray, wait. Wait for test results, wait for healing, wait for her to be released home. I left the hospital one time in those 5 days to shower, and when I got home, I was all alone ... and I lost it. Sometimes I feel like I’m still in that hospital room, curled up on that green chair. I honestly wouldn’t be too far off since we’re still in that same cycle of sit, pray, wait. Not much has changed since May, except this time I’m not making my way to the hospital cafeteria every morning for some semblance of a breakfast. Down five stories, make a right, make another right, and if you’re there on Saturday, they happen to have breakfast burritos. Woopity-doo.

So often since then I’ve been so frustrated with God. There have been times in my life when I’ve just stopped praying for a few days, not intentionally, just in the sense of “does He even hear me? what’s the point? He knows what I’ll be praying for anyway.” The past few months, my prayers have been more lukewarm. “Hi, God. I pray for my mom, grandma, loved ones. Jane, Bob, Jack. You know. The usual. K bye.” Which, I know, isn’t much better. My prayers have felt repetitive to the point where I’ve felt like saying “welp, You know You’re going to do what You want anyway …” And I hate that. I’ll never understand how He lets others heal and others suffer. How he performs these beautiful miracles every day (nor is it our job to understand), but when it comes to my family, it’s just feels like He left us on read. Although sometimes it just feels like He’s blocked our number (don’t worry, I know the only one blocking us from Him is the enemy).

Before 2019, I would have told you the hardest years of my life were those lived in San Diego. (Which to be honest, many don’t know about. See: paragraph three titled: “I hold everything in”). But the past few years in general have been unimaginable.

My grandpa underwent open heart surgery with 5 clogged arteries, had multiple strokes and heart attacks and probably the most heartbreaking of all, his memory is declining each and every day. I don’t remember the moment it started happening, but what I can tell you is that the things he’s forgetting are pretty major. He’s been on the phone with my mom lately, and he always makes it a point to tell me he loves me. I cling to those words and play them back in my head for fear he won’t remember me someday.

To add to it all, my uncle has undergone all those same things recently — the strokes, the heart attacks, the open heart surgery. My aunt also passed this year. And while in San Diego a couple years ago, my grandpa, great grandpa and uncle passed in what seemed like months of each other.

I’m not writing this for pity in any way whatsoever. But maybe by me writing it, you’ll know you aren’t alone.

I was on Instagram the other day and I came across a family that was (and still is) going through an immense tragedy. They were frustrated (as to be expected), but what astounded me the most was the way they pointed it all back to God. Even in the midst of their despair, they clung to Hope. They left it all on the altar. And though God hasn’t completely answered their prayers, there have been glimpses of His presence. There have been little miracles on the way to miraculous healing.

God doesn’t see our feelings as a burden. He doesn’t leave you on read. He’s still typing.

Sure, sometimes my prayers are short and full of sighs and discontent with the current circumstances, but I’m finding more fulfillment in letting it all out. In breaking the dam of emotions and letting my feelings, desires, hopes and fears flood his inbox. Just because He doesn’t type as fast as we’d like, it doesn’t mean He isn’t answering us in the ways we cannot see. Maybe He’s working it for good and it’s just that our connection — our reception — isn’t strong enough because we’re letting doubt creep in and cloud His plan for us.

Three things that have been on my mind lately —

one //

2 Corinthians 4. All of it. But especially:
”Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”

two //

The rabbi’s words from this heartbreaking scene from Grey’s Anatomy.
“Faith wouldn’t be real faith if you only believe when things are good.”

three //

I know Dermot Kennedy’s song “Lost,” isn’t religious, but some of these lyrics point me back to Jesus. The video itself reminds me that we’re not alone in this thing called life.

“But if only you could see yourself in my eyes
You'd see you shine, you shine
I know you'd never leave me behind
But I am lost this time”

“I was lost 'til I found you”

“I've learned in love and death, we don't decide”

We’ve seen Him work miracles before. It’s not our job to understand who gets healed, who gets saved. Our job is to ask, to seek and to live in accordance with His will. Our job is to let the floodgates down and believe in the unimaginable. To look for where the Light pours in.

xx Kassi

loving lately, volume 11

Happy it’s almost fall and we can almost start to wear sweaters and eat pumpkin things and stop sweating 24/7, friends! You’ll be happy to know I’m already diffusing all the fall-smelling oils and listening to Christmas music — don’t let anyone tell you it’s too soon 🤪

Speaking of too soon — have you guys been watching “Bachelor In Paradise”? #JusticeforBibiana #JusticeforDylan #andthosetextmessagesOMG. I’m already stressed out. This past season of “The Bachelorette” gave me such a headache and I need alllllll the lavender and peppermint to make it through the rest of Bachelor In Paradise haha. Why do I do this to myself. But also, I can’t wait to see the drama unfold this week. Pass the popcorn, please.

 
 

Until then, here’s everything I’ve been loving lately!

+ Cash Pad

JoJo Fletcher and Jordan Rodgers are one of my absolute FAVORITE Bachelor couples and they’re taking on some serious rental renovations on their new show, “Cash Pad”! Move over, Chip + Jo (jk, I love you both). I loved watching JoJo and Jordan’s love story unfold on “The Bachelorette,” but I loved them even more after watching their Engaged with JoJo & Jordan YouTube channel! And “Cash Pad”?! Give me all the home renos! The duo took on an Airstream in the latest episode and I can’t wait to see what they do next!

“Cash Pad” airs Tuesdays at 10 pm ET on CNBC, but I’ve also been able to find full episodes on CNBC Prime’s YouTube channel!

+ Cocokind turmeric spot treatment

THIS STUFF IS MAGIC AND EVERYONE NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT IT. Sorry for the yelling, but it needs to be said. I heard about Cocokind through the interwebs and finally caved when I saw it at Target! Man oh man does it live up to the hype! It’s gotten rid of unwelcome visitors on my face practically overnight! It treats acne on the spot, reduces inflammation, balances skin tone and brightens dark spots. I’m not the type of person to have a full-blown skincare routine (whoops), but this stick has been super easy for me to use (and a lifesaver)!

 
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+ Born To Be Yours — Imagine Dragons and Kygo

This is the last time I’ll talk about anything Bachelor-related, I promise! 😂BUT I was watching one of Peter the pilot’s Instagram stories (ya know, Peter from Hannah B’s season #peterforbachelor) and he was singing along to this super catchy song so I did some googling and apparently it was an Imagine Dragons hit from last year that I never heard of?! I’ve made up for lost time by playing it on repeat more than I’d like to admit, but if you’ve heard it, you’d understand. Try blasting it in the car with the windows down and not singing along … I dare you.

+ Checkerboard Slip-On Vans

I’ve been looking for a good slip-on tennis shoe and I thought I found *the one* the other day at Target. I regret to inform you (and my feet), that they hurt the back of my ankle so bad after wearing them for a few hours that they have to be returned 😭 But THEN I saw Rachel Bilson’s Instagram post of her on former Bachelor Nick Viall’s podcast, The Viall Files, (ok ok, sorry for the Bachelor talk again 🤪). Rachel was wearing some checkerboard Vans with ripped jeans and a black— ya know what, I’m just going to show you—

Cute, right?! I never would’ve paired the outfit together or even thought about Vans post-middle school, but then I thought WWZHKD? (What Would Zoe Hart-Kinsella Do? Shoutout to the Hart of Dixie fans out there). And ya know what? Zoe would buy the shoes. So I did ✌🏼

+ Young Living’s Sacred Mountain essential oil blend

I heard so much about Sacred Mountain and I finally got it in my monthly order last month! It is so GOOD! Sacred Mountain is a blend of Ylang Ylang and conifer oils that promotes feelings of strength, empowerment, grounding and protection when diffused. I’m loving it with tangerine or grapefruit and lavender at night!

+ Pacifica Perfumed Hair & Body Mist

If you’re looking for a great (and natural!) body mist, look no further. I have Pacifica’s Tahitian Gardenia and Indian Coconut Nectar and love them both! The smell lasts throughout the day and isn’t too overpowering. Highly, highly recommend. Plus they’re clean, cruelty-free and vegan!

+ Freya Riding’s “Lost Without You”

I don’t have too much to say about this one other than 1. where can I learn to sing like that, 2. wow this song and 3. 😭

+ Trader Joe’s Jalapeño Sauce

I picked this up the other day and it is LIFE-CHANGING. I’m loving it on burritos, tacos and burrito bowls. It’s definitely spicy (you’ve been warned), so you just need a little drizzle!

+ Young Living’s CinnaFresh deodorant

I’ve struggled to find a natural deodorant that actually works, but it finally happened! I’m loving YL’s CinnaFresh deodorant — no stink or weird residue! It smells a little more rosemary than cinnamon to me, but I love it nonetheless! I can’t wait to try the CitraGuard deodorant next! (PS — I’m a YL distributor so if you’d like to try it, shoot me an IG message or email!)

 
 

+ Kevin Garrett’s debut album, “Hoax”

I had no idea Kevin Garrett dropped his debut album until a friend sent it to me and I am SPEECHLESS. It’s so, so good. You can feel the emotion in each song and did you know he received a Grammy nomination for his work on Beyoncé’s album, “Lemonade”?! This guy is g i f t e d.

+ Olly Plant-Powered Vegan Protein Powder

I’ve been trying out some vegan protein lately and I’m currently loving Olly’s salted caramel chocolate! I’ve tried the vanilla, too, but the flavor was a little too subtle for me, so the salted caramel chocolate reigned supreme. Plus it blends smoothly which is key!

+ Dermot Kennedy’s “For Island Fires and Family” Mahogany Session

I was reminded of this “For Island Fires and Family” rendition the other day and it’s been on loop ever since. I’ll never tire of Dermot’s live performances (I mean, have you heard his voice?) and his Mahogany Sessions are my favorite! This video starts with his hit “Power Over Me” (also a jam), but if you just want to hear “FIFAF,” skip to 3:40. PS — his “Lost” Mahogany Session makes me weepy, too — the strings 😭🙌🏼

+ honey + lime popcorn

I heard about this easy recipe through Instagram and it’s currently one of my favorite things to throw together! It’s a fun twist on regular popcorn and so easy to make. You can blend the ingredients on the stovetop, but I opted for the microwave because #lazy. PS — I’m trying this popcorn recipe via Goop next!

INGREDIENTS —

+ your favorite bag of popcorn
+ 2 drops of Young Living’s Lime Vitality
+ 2 tbsp of your favorite honey (I used Trader Joe’s raw organic honey)
+ sea salt and coconut oil optional

DIRECTIONS —

Melt 2 tbsp of honey (if needed), then blend in 2 drops of the Lime Vitality. (Be sure it’s Young Living. I don’t recommend ingesting any other brand of essential oil!) If you’re using a little coconut oil, mix that in, too! Pour over a freshly popped bag of popcorn and sprinkle with sea salt! YUM.

Until next time,
xx Kassi